- Category: Love and Relationship Readings
- Last Updated on June 12, 2013
- Written by Mark Blair
Like many myths in our society, the one that says that the ultimate relationship is one where you live with someone is being challenged. Once considered the goal of a loving relationship, people have learned that they can have an intimate, fulfilling relationship while maintaining two households. A newly published book, "Going Solo: The Extraordinary Rise and Surprising Appeal of Living Alone" explains why people are motivated to try this particular lifestyle.
What people are discovering is that there are many reasons to live alone. And it doesn't mean that the person is alone or lonely. It just means that there isn't another person in the house with them all of the time. Here are a few benefits to the solo-home lifestyle:
You and you alone are responsible for the upkeep of the house. It is as clean or messy as you choose it to be. The trash goes out when you want it to go out. The dishes get washed when you want them to be washed. You don't have to depend on someone else to do the chores. And you won't be disappointed when they don't do them.
You can enjoy whatever kind of entertainment whenever you want. Play music, watch a movie, sit and read. Be as loud or as quiet as you want (although you still have to deal with the neighbors!). You can entertain yourself or invite guests over. It is your time and space to fill as you wish.
Get up as early or late as you want. Go to bed the same way. You can shut off your alarm clock when it nags at you, but not as easily a roommate. You can set your own schedule, call in sick at work, stay home and watch the Desperate Housewives marathon on TV.
You can buy whatever food you want, and as much of it as you want. You can eat whenever you want and wherever you want in your space. No one will comment on your diet, or lack of one. Monday can be arugula with raspberry vinaigrette and Tuesday it's Pizza Rolls and Doritos.
You can be dressed, or undressed, however you wish when you live alone. Lounge in those Wal-Mart Hello Kitty PJs all day. Walk naked from the bedroom to the kitchen to get a snack or drink. Get home from work and put your feet up on the coffee table. No one will yell at you.
You don't have to deal with all of the little annoyances that come with having a roommate, or live-in partner. The toilet seat can be up or down. No one drinks out of the milk carton unless it's you. The only dirty clothes on the floor are yours.
You get to be alone whenever you want to be alone. It's hard to have that space when living with someone unless you have a mansion. "Could you leave the house so I can be alone for a few hours?" is a hard thing to ask of a roommate. When you want to be around people, go out or invite people over. It's your choice.
One of the biggest things you'll learn living alone is more about yourself. If you've never lived alone, you'll learn about your own preferences. If you haven't lived alone for awhile, you'll discover the preferences that you've really missed. People are turning to a solo lifestyle now more than ever. It may be the best way to have the perfect relationship with your lover.